It might seem from what I write, that I am "Pro- monogamy" and that I could be judgmental about the people who sleep around. Gay men have been okay with the hook up culture from the beginning, as being gay was socially unacceptable and all they can do is quench their lust secretly. It was the only thing that they were allowed to do. When we look for a girl for dating or marriage, we don't just see their "size" and "Shape". We look at her character, her ideologies and beyond. But why don't we look at a gay man beyond his muscles and dick size?.
"Being a slut", could be sexually liberating, if gay men were not allowed to have multiple partners and if it was a "sin", like with the case of women, in patriarchy. Here, the case is the exact opposite. Gay men are seen widely, around the globe, throughout, as sex objects. How many of us are fed up of every conversation in the apps about "Nudes? Place? Positions? Group?". We are a highly sexually liberated lot already. But, are we more than that? The answer is a no.
I see all these men, with chiseled bodies and handsome faces, profile after profile. Some really nice guys hunting to be called "Cute, hot" etc. Many who don't have any idea or interest in getting to know you as a person. In fact, the Gay community is about glorifying being the slut. Reducing ourselves to be some nymphomaniacs. I don't honestly see it as celebrating sexuality, but recognizing us only for our sexuality. But, we are way beyond that. But, how many of us celebrate that?
I made it a point when I wrote the blog. although, I have previously written "Most read" erotica in many forums, I would write about romance and relationship dynamics in this one. Because, all this is lost behind "sex". How many of us crave to find decent men around to have a conversation with, beyond sex? How many of us wish we found someone who value us for our capability to love over the capability to last (in bed)?
Gay men are wonderful human beings. From the people whom I have spoken to, they are capable of loving someone deeply, they can be your mother, your father, your brother, your best friend, and why not? your husband. All in one. A gay man is capable of being an amazing father. But, we don't see beyond the muscles, roundness of their ass and the thickness of their manhood. And in fact, we all do something that is regressive to the community as a whole, and that is "Nun shaming".
In a male chauvinistic world, it makes sense for a girl to be sexually liberated, and have her right over her body, not to show her soul or be someone's wife to have an orgasm. But why not a man who has other things beyond his looks want to offer his body to only those who see him for what he is?, when will our community be "open" to see a man beyond him being "Cute"?.
I wish to see the community not "peer pressured" and "coerced" to sell their body in exchange for love. I wish to see men trying to "date" and even choose a date, based on his ability to be a boy friend/husband and not just because he is a "sugar daddy".
"Being a slut", could be sexually liberating, if gay men were not allowed to have multiple partners and if it was a "sin", like with the case of women, in patriarchy. Here, the case is the exact opposite. Gay men are seen widely, around the globe, throughout, as sex objects. How many of us are fed up of every conversation in the apps about "Nudes? Place? Positions? Group?". We are a highly sexually liberated lot already. But, are we more than that? The answer is a no.
I see all these men, with chiseled bodies and handsome faces, profile after profile. Some really nice guys hunting to be called "Cute, hot" etc. Many who don't have any idea or interest in getting to know you as a person. In fact, the Gay community is about glorifying being the slut. Reducing ourselves to be some nymphomaniacs. I don't honestly see it as celebrating sexuality, but recognizing us only for our sexuality. But, we are way beyond that. But, how many of us celebrate that?
I made it a point when I wrote the blog. although, I have previously written "Most read" erotica in many forums, I would write about romance and relationship dynamics in this one. Because, all this is lost behind "sex". How many of us crave to find decent men around to have a conversation with, beyond sex? How many of us wish we found someone who value us for our capability to love over the capability to last (in bed)?
Gay men are wonderful human beings. From the people whom I have spoken to, they are capable of loving someone deeply, they can be your mother, your father, your brother, your best friend, and why not? your husband. All in one. A gay man is capable of being an amazing father. But, we don't see beyond the muscles, roundness of their ass and the thickness of their manhood. And in fact, we all do something that is regressive to the community as a whole, and that is "Nun shaming".
In a male chauvinistic world, it makes sense for a girl to be sexually liberated, and have her right over her body, not to show her soul or be someone's wife to have an orgasm. But why not a man who has other things beyond his looks want to offer his body to only those who see him for what he is?, when will our community be "open" to see a man beyond him being "Cute"?.
I wish to see the community not "peer pressured" and "coerced" to sell their body in exchange for love. I wish to see men trying to "date" and even choose a date, based on his ability to be a boy friend/husband and not just because he is a "sugar daddy".
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