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The curse of Familiarity

There are several guys whom you wish texted you back, There are guys whom you wish they liked you back. But, there are many who did. But we end up loosing that spark so fast. May be because it was the mystery that kept them interesting. Once when you know too much about them, or once you see their flaws or the fact that they are not what you think they are, the spark goes away.

Haven't we heard of such stories? Dating for three years, four years only to see that they lost the spark. Guess that happened to me too. A goof friend of mine whom I have texted very occasionally, but I met very rarely. As days went by, the initial josh went away. I don;t know if its the same with women. I guess it is. But at least its socially acceptable. But with men, especially when both of them are independent, leaving each other seems easy, Although, at times, one of them end up being emotionally attached.

May be that even happens, when you text a guy seeing his social profiles, where you like one or two of his best pics, but attraction needs more than that. and slowly there are things that you don't like, or don;t want. you see them for who they are, and then a thought occurs "Will I date this guy?", and the answer would be no. Then there are some who you consider to be perfect, only to see that they don't show interest in you, as their expectations are higher for their standards, which you can never cut it.

Then the facts of you knowing them too well to realize that it's never gonna work out. Familiarity breeds contempt after all. Even seeing the same body, kissing the same lips, it looses its charm after a while. More so, with men. 

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