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The Gay Pyramid of Desirabililty

The Gay pyramid of desirability, is something I see, almost in all cities. It is according to me is how the gay world usually seems to work. But if we learn to respect each other beyond this, and honestly, respect ourselves, we might end up getting a better life.

The Top of the pyramid, is the Top and when I say a Top, a Bisexual Top. Most gay men know that Bisexuals are assholes. They want the best of both worlds. They would look at  guys as a piece of meat, may be just a hole to fill. Bisexuals are usually Tops for they only see Men as an alternative to women, who can be treated as sex slaves as they wish to. and the "Bottoms" of the pyramid would love to take them religiously. Yes, it is their choice. But, I feel that Bisexuals would treat the gay men better if we up our standards at bit.

The second in line are the gay tops, who look like greek Gods. They would easily get the holes they want, yet they look for more. They are capable of loving a guy as long as their "Masculinity Quotient" (MQ) is high. They Prefer the next guys in the Pyramid, The Vers Tops. Versatile Tops (I think I fall into this category) are okay with bottoming for a manly top, which may or may not include Anal Penetration. Other than that, they would fuck a bottom anally, but would rather not take them seriously. Versatile men are like Carbon in the Gay periodic table. They can fuck, get fucked, suck, get sucked. I feel that their masculinity is very fluid and based on their partner. The Vers Bottom, come right below the Versatile, who prefer to get fucked over fucking, is okay to getting sucked.

Although, I am not a fan of "Bottom shaming", I don't completely blame the rest of the guys. The Bottom gays are highly clingy, as far as I have seen and tend to stalk/worship/beg the higher categories. If you are a bottom and don't fall for this description, Good for you!. I wish more bottoms see their self worth and be okay with who they are.

In the realm of LGBT, I guess Transgenders fall below "Gay Bottoms". I feel that Buff Lesbians have a more harmonious situation, although I don't know many. Hope most of you would have come across this, but I just wanted to initiate the newbies and a reminisce for the veterans. 

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