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Logic of "Bisexuals"

Having seen the Logic of Top, Bottom and Vers. Bisexuals are by far the most illogical souls in the world. They have someone made their logic based on the cat on the wall situation that they are in. These Bizarre logic makes it hard for any guy to date them.

Its not cheating, when its with Guys- 

These married/divorced/ committed Bisexuals sleep around with men as much as they like and they are still "committed" to the wife because they haven't slept with a girl. But then this is a logic that I don't understand. Now, these men don't have to be committed to the men they sleep with, because men are not commitment material. They can sleep with anyone they want. and if you are someone who would like to be committed to one person, well, you are just asking for too much.

Women have self respect - Men shouldn't 

A Women has all the rights to question a guy if he cheats on her. Now then he is guilty and would have some remorse. He would win her back by apologizing, but with men, he can always choose to leave because self respect is just too much for men. Because men are supposed to chill. Most men want the guys for his ass or his dick. Anything more than that you ask for, you are just too much to handle.

Sex with Men, Romance for Women  

There was a guy whom I met, who made it very clear to me that he likes me for my body. He wanted to sleep with me and anything else beyond that is for women only. He had infact told me many times "Bhai, I want a cute girl to romance", and then here I am, who should even ask him for a kiss. We can chat, we can talk, he doesn't mind sending a hundred nudes, but then that;s that. At a point I made it only about sex with him, and then he wants to be my "friend". It was as if men don't deserve to be romanced. It didn't make sense to me, it still doesn't. I wasn't even asking for PDA, but then that's how the logic works.

Men can be friends, not Boyfriends 

The times I have heard these men say, "Lets be good friends for a long term", and what does that mean? It means, I would sleep with many guys, I would romance with my girl, I would hang around with my straight friends in public, and when all these commitments and priorities are done, I will come to you in the dark when I need an ass, and then I'll flirt with you whenever I get the time. And you get to do the same. They call you a good "friend" if you sleep with them, and go with them for a vacation so that they "relax" and get back to their commitments and priorities. In dictionary, if the same was a girl, I don't think "friends" is the term for that.

Keep off my life

Most Bisexuals who need a boy toy have a clear boundary that men that they date are out of their life. In no way can they be part of his life however they like each other. because at the end of the day, you are his dirty secret. You would be his weekend getaway friend, or a guy for "body warmth", or a guy whom he uses to relieve the stress from his real life. Basically, you are easily replaceable piece of meat.

You are not important to me, but I must be to you

A very basic line is how they play with the gay men's sensitivity and desperation. They know that of not him, they have many men who are ready to be the sex toy that they need, with whom they can "chill" and forget, who needs to be there for you when they need to relax and then they can leave you so fast when you get "Serious" with them. While they can do all of this, the men they like are supposed to be extremely nice and well behaved, they must respect him, adore him and worship him, they must be ready to give his body mind and soul to this one guy, while he would do whatever he wishes.

Sometimes, I would wonder if I should laugh or cry to these logic, but they love by with it, however it may be.


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