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Dating NRIs

I had a friend once who dated NRIs for all the wrong reasons. This is something that comes because of the time when the girls in the family get to fly to some foreign country and come back home loads of gifts. Like Santa claus. I had dated an NRI, and have a friend who is. The Truth of dating an NRI is far from what actually is.

People believe that NRIs spoil you with gifts and take you out cose they have loads of cash. May be they do, but coming from a place where they have the "you earn and you spend, I earn and I spend" kinda mindset, they wouldn't bother to "pamper" you like you think.

They prefer NRIs for being well spoken and hep. But then sometimes it turns out that all that they do is a speech on "Back in the US/ UK", which would just tend to piss you off. Especially those who have traveled a few countries keep talking about it more than anything, sometimes that turns out to be their only identity.

One big assumption, or a doubt that I had is that they have a lot of options. In fact, I wonder why they would want to date someone back in India, when they have each other to date. The hard truth is, with racism and with substantially high standards, they end up feeling more alone. More so because their white counterparts seem to have settled down, and the NRI crowd is just too much to handle for themselves, they sought out to the Indian native crowd here.

The other assumption I had was that they would be a lot more liberal in thought and may be in bed. But I like the fact that some of them are very much into their roots. In fact, more than the native ones over here, they believe in being choosy and being in a relationship, the old fashioned dating and getting to know each other etc. Sometimes, old fashioned enough to just get married than choose a guy.

Well, having said that I would say that dating them has its own plus and minus. But its definitely not the same as dating a native.





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