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Dating someone younger

Having written about people who have dated both younger and older guys, I felt that I need to talk about the younger guys. As I was younger, may be to my own preference, I didn't like to date younger guys, but as I grow older, I feel that they have more substance, than I ever did, back in the age, in fact, Some guys are much more mature and worldly than the older men.

Energy -

I feel that younger guys have a lot of energy. They want to do a lot of things, they can spend more time, and energy on you. In fact, they are not tied down by responsibilities of an adult that they are carefree and happy. They might have their own dramas, but that's just excess of this energy that they don't know how to spend. But even that makes you feel alive. In fact, I feel that if you are really an adult, you'll enjoy the drama ( as long as its not toxic ). They have this passion towards life, love and their own interests that makes you energetic.

Innocence -

While older men are extremely grounded and experienced. The younger guys have this innocence that I really like. They sometimes try to show as if they know things, and that makes it more adorable. Sometimes, you need to give them some guidance, answer all their questions, and sometimes learn to take guidance from them. Even when they screw up, its pretty funny, and you end up wanting to just hug them a plant a kiss.

Cute! -

Irrespective of them being skinny, fat or muscular, their innocent face, their behavior and the way they speak is just cute. You realize that they are just transitioning from a boy to a man, and how they still have that boyish charm in them which makes it cute. Especially today's generation, of how they try a lot to be a man, only to make them look even cuter! I once dated this guy who always wanted to look like he is the "man" in the relationship, while he had to get permission from his parents for literally everything. It was just adorable.

potential -

The biggest mistake that the guys who prefer older men do is that they see things at face value. Yes, the older man has settled down in every way, but as years go by they want be able to grow, or change, things will get boring, because there will come a time soon when their hormones would be settled and they can't do much about it. But younger guys are full of potential. They have a whole life in front of them, and you can be a part of it. They would change, they would grow, they would eventually settle, and you can be part of all of it. In fact, while you take care of them, at this point in time, they'll take care of you as you settle down. But this is not something people want to deal with, We forget that there will come a time when the older guys would lose the luster and you may have to take care of them at some point.

Space to Learn -

Older men have a beaten track, which they wouldn't afford to leave. They have opinions that are ethced to their skin and you may have to adjust. Younger men love to explore, they love to try out different things, learn different things, find out a lot about themselves and people around them. For relationships or sex, this is very important and makes it thriving.

So these are what I feel it is to date someone younger. For now I feel I have started dating people for who they are irrespective for their gender, race or age. It keeps me want to learn the differences and similarities between the range, and see which suits me the best. Cheers!


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