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Dating Older Men

Most the apps prefer dating older men. Including me, I would dated someone younger but I preer someone older as I feel that they are in my wavelength. But may be most people prefer for few the these reasons which I think you can relate to.

Feeling of being protected -

Sometimes we end up being a "grown up" all the time that you like it when someone else take that space. You feel like there is some one elder to you and that gives you a safe space. Whether they are really that way, is something to debate on, but being an indian, you end up giving them the due respect anyway. When someone elder to you is soft and nice to you, you feel special, and enjoy that feeling of being taken care of.

Settled Financially -

Sometimes, when you date someone younger, and you as young as you are, you have to make sure that you have enough for going out. But older men, most of them, are financially settled and you can simply be sure that if you are a bit less of cash, they can cover for you sometimes. Older men usually have their own place where you can spend time with them, while most of the younger guys are with family and friends. If you are someone who likes to be driven around, they naturally take up the seat. I think when I was dating this guy, I was driving my car, rather bad, and he pretty much asked me to give the wheels to him and made a remark "you are such a kid" and smirked.

Testosterone -

If you wonder why you just end up falling for a pot bellied middle ages man who look nothing like john Abraham, may be its because he is single and pumps out a lot of testosterone, as a nature's way of making sure he gets laid and makes offspring. If you are gay, you would naturally be attracted to the testosterone and the other phermones that he secretes. As men, we need it and get naturally attracted to it.

Mental Substance -

There are a few young guys who are sensible, but the older ones have a lot of experience, and know who to act. These well spoken older guys would even give you timely advice and give you important ideas, which would be of great substance. In fact, while you date someone younger, you would see that their inclinations are very shallow, but those of the older guys is so much deeper, and sensible. More than mental substance, they have mental stability. Which you, as a youngster with all those surging hormones don't have.

Responsibility -

If you are dating someone older, they naturally take responsibility for you. They make sure that you are okay, they do whatever they can to help you out. Especially if you date someone, who is single and older, and monogamous (or not) while you are with them, they take responsibility over you. Even though you are not a child to be having a baby sitter, when you see that they take up that space, makes you feel more comfortable.

Emotional Stability -

I think the younger guys these days seem to e equally stable, from afar, but the older ones tend to be more stable up close. Having seen the gay world,a dncoming in terms with it, they tend to be a lot more clear emotionally. They don;t attach themselves too much and when you do such things, they understand, because they have gone through the same. Sometimes, they empathize with you, and care for you that you shouldn't go for the same.

Independence -

Although with work and family commitments, the independence isnt much, But those who are single have more chances of taking their own decisions. They are much more independent as to where they want to go, what they want to do, whom they want to be, and whom they want to be with. This Independence is missing with the younger crowd, as they have to depend at least financially and socially with their parents.

There could be more, but I think this givesreasons for the emotional, social, biological and mental preference for someone older to you!

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