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Millennials and Gay Romance

Of all the time, this is the best time to that gay men are exposed to each other with enough privacy in the social media. From the time where there were smaller online forums to meet gay men, now we have apps and wide range of people. But Millennials face other problems that comes against their gay romance, which is as real as it gets

Time -

Millennials have very less time (at least the successful ones), and they can spend very less time for going out or getting to know a person. They would rather have sex and get done with their urges, and get on with their work than to take their time to hang out with one person, or keep an engaging conversation with someone you are interested with. The Shift systems in the corporate world and time-line difference in long distant relationships. Lets not forget how tired we get after a full day's work.The connection is there, but the timing is off.

Place - 

Millennials unlike our generations before are forced to live with parents until they are 30 or more. The younger lot huddle up with their peers in apartments, to whom they are not out. Place, is not only for the sex, but also to get to know a person or spend time with one.

Distance - 

With many websites and apps to connect to those far away, the distance can kill relationships. While there is a connection and there are ways to connect. The lack of physical connections lead to break ups. There is always fresh faces going around your locality and you seek to someone close by. With growing instances of cheating, it is hard to keep track of someone who is away from you. sometimes, even in the same city, you can't meet up cose both are tired and cant get a cab.

Money -

Millennials work to study, or study for work. Most of them are not settles until they are in the early 30s. some even after. With the "high life" that we are used to, sometimes we even end up borrowing from our parents to get through a few times. Most of them stay at different cities with cabs as the only mode of transportation. Even splurge of any kind with your partner isn't exactly happening because you end up being in a tight spot, almost broke from just buying decent clothes. Also, if you are from a metro, you have to pay enough for a fancy dinner. Especially if you are romantic, who wants to give gifts and take your partner out, may be you have to wait for a while until you settle down.

Body image -

With growing number of men with a great body, and the kind of attention they get (or the lack of attention if not), you kind of have body image issues. with the little time we get, we have to spend time in a day at the gym to work on your physique. Even though you have a good "heart" or "mind", initial interaction is totally based on the body, and we have so many "types" that its hard to keep up with it. With the growing obsessions to abs and muscles, millennials who don't , can;t keep up the game.

Loose morales - 

Relationships take a lot of effort, commitment and sacrifice. Mutual understanding and trust is important in any kind of relationship. But lets face it. Millennials have a loose morale fiber. We can sleep around and cheating had become very common. With the options that is available to us, and the lack of real intimacy, it is hard for millennials to get committed. Especially when the other factors don;t let others to connect, out of sheer desperation we end up looking for someone else.

Millennials seem to be at a far better place to sexually explore and it seems interesting. But to settle down with someone for a relationship and for a proper romantic connection, we would need the time, space and intimacy. Let's hope that we reach a better place to explore our romantic quotient, in the future.







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