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Bearing a child

while I was talking to one of my friend, who had been in a two year relationship an year back and had turned to sex for intimacy (which aint wrong), I told him about how I still feel that emotional bond is needed for that kind of physical intimacy to be great. He made it clear to me that he was in that phase and have moved out of it (although he smiles wryly while he talks about his new bae), the one thing that he mentioned would be that gay relationships don't last more than four years max. I wasn't sure if that's the case, since I have not seen any who have been able to maintain (unless they are in an open relationship, may be). I started to compare why the straight relationships last longer, or had lasted. Straight relationships don't go around fucking (atleast most of them), and the reason could be a child. Two people can't stay with each other forever with only their company, especially if you live with them and hang out with them daily. For how many years would be you living, especially the later part of your life, with one partner, who is growing old as day goes by, where you have fresh meat everyday, while you use your free time at the gym pumping iron or working towards your career. Your life becomes meaningless after a point.

Raising a child becomes the main agenda to most married couples and that gives new meaning. They even choose the partner who is able to raise their child the right way. Taking that otherwise, you would rather go behind just looks over character and personality. Money and attitude over love and security. You look for a husband and not just a boy friend. you look for a father figure and not a partner figure. 


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