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Personality Vs Looks

Most of the gay men are indeed good looking. Just for the fact that out profiles attract crowd and we can get laid not by anything but the nudes that we send to each other. It has been pretty much the case. You look good, you get laid.

But for someone to treat you more than just as a piece of meat. Which eventually we all want. Then it takes more than the looks. We all want that one guy who looks at us like we are the best thing in their lives. There are times when that just doesn't happen. Like what I read in my friend's blog recently and how after the guy cums he looks at you with regret. May be that's because there is something more than looks that gay men need to work. It's their personality.

You may ask what is the difference between looks and personality. Its the difference between a movie stars and models. Models might be good looking but they need more than looks to be a movie star. To capture the audience with their charisma. You may be tall, short, fat, slim, muscular, hairy, smooth etc. When you have a captivating personality that is what makes them stay!

Sadly gay men are either too tight or loose. You know what I mean? Some take the word attitude to a whole new level. And personality has nothing to do with attitude. May be that's why even the most good looking end up lonely and miserable. 


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