As I mentioned in my last post, I was speaking with this guy who had two boy friends, and he showed me his first guy, who was really handsome. The guy I met wasn't so bad too, but the fact that he stood with the other (and being monogamous) to him was something that I wondered more than anything.
That's when I realized something that I didn't before. Conventionally, Men go for looks and Women go for words. Which is something I really believe in, as I have seen that work. It took some time for me to realise that this guy I was talking to was amazing with his speech. This took me back to the times I was attracted to Kel, whom I missed at that point more than ever. Althoug Kel was handsome, hands down, what made me fall for him is the way he could hold a conversation. Be it with SDev or Dobby for that matter. Dobby isn't conventionally good looking, but I wondered why a friend of mine said that he likes him. Beyond his filtered pics and fake posts to make him look well off, he could hold an intellectual conversation, Also, he was a listener. Leaving this aside, I asked him directly, what is that makes them want you, The answer was that he is low maintenance
It made more sense than anything to me. I would dread those high maintenance guys who through a drama and seek attention. But on the other hand, I like attention. I would be attracted to someone with a good physique, but if someone can talk well, I don't think physique matters, as long as he is not bad to look at.
The missing puzzle in the equation was just that. If you are pretty okay looking, and yet you carry yourself pretty well, and can hold a conversation well, may be that is all you need for a good relationship. Also, to be low maintenance and give more attention. These are the things I learned from the guy with two Boy friends.