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Taken for granted

I would say that I am that person who takes things for granted unless I loose it, And with the people around me, I wouldn't take that risk. Having been someone who has been in his own company most of the time, I know the value of people in my life. Yet, there are those who don't.

Gay men are those beings who are okay with being taken for granted. A guy can sleep with several men, and those men offer themselves happily. In a way, when there is more supply of any goods, its value goes down. Like we make sure our iPhones are unscathed, but our notebooks torn and twisted. Gay men give their heart away so easy, those with the good body can have ample, and be an ass, only to see more men licking his boots. We are taken for granted at every point and we are okay with it. Getting married while his boy friend becomes his best man. He doesn;t speak a word. Being ignored in public, while enjoyed in private, we accept it as our fate. Being okay with being treated as a "timepass". He hangs out with you until he gets a better meat. How can you be okay with it?!

From Open relationships to cheating boyfriends, to leaving the guy spread eagle without a even a kiss, the stories that I hear makes me wonder if we are not taking ourselves seriously. Even to be rejected, I like those who ask me, "Sorry, but may I know why you are not interested in me?", and I gladly reply accordingly. When you are not taken for granted and stand up to yourself, there would be this group of people who would suddenly alienate you. you would feel stranded all alone, but then as time goes by, you meet those who would value your presence and take you seriously. But are we ready to let go of our old space of comfort? 


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