Enticing

There was something that reverbrated inside me, when I was texting this guy I know. He made a comment about my old pal and it went something like this, " Both of you are nice to me, Why aren't you both friends?", and I didn't give a proper reply except, "You'll know eventually". May be that is something that takes a lot of our time. A lot. Someone you think as "nice", especially in the gay community need not be so. Infact, from what I saw, there are so many nice men, who get manipulated by others, and you have trust issues. Something that I do, to check if they are genuine, these days ( although it makes you look bad for a sec). is to entice them into doing something that you would agree on.

Like "cheating". You ask him, in a very casual manner what they think about it, and not just as a opinion, but be proud of the fact that you have cheated on someone, or even tell him anout the guys you have used. If the other guy joins you and talks about all the guys he has cheated, you have found yourself a "wolf in a sheep's skin", and what if he really is a sheep, he'll be pissed at you for what you did, and may distance himself from you, but then there are always ways to patch up.

I sometimes don't trust those who are "chilled" about it, as well. Somewhere, it hits that the person is okay with the fact you did something wrong to another. But, to them you can still give the benefit of the doubt. Anyway, this is where you can find out whether the other person is genuinely nice, or a "nice moron".