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Bond and Connect

What we lack in the gay world nowadays for a healthy relationship or friendship is just this, we are superficial. Period. All of us have the desire to connect deeply with a person, but usually the one you want to connect doesn't want to connect with you. but some of us are lucky that the connect just happens.

How do you know if you really are with the right person? Look at my previous blog post. Passion. Compatibility and acceptance. Passion is more physical and that is necessary in the beginning of the relationship. The fire! but physical connect wears off. After sex, especially. you have seen each other's body, explored it. Admired it and when the passion in bed is subsided, what you do after makes a huge difference. You would wanna marry every guy who is good in bed, and after a week, you wonder "What;s next?". Let's face it, most men run around for such passion in bed.

There are some people, most of my Doc friends. Passion, may be, but they are intellectually stimulating. you can talk to them about under the sun. They keep the conversation going and you seldom feel bored. They are practical and mind oriented. Confidently, they'll have a group of people for intellectual conversations. But Emotional connect?!

Emotional connect is the toughest, especially because, the highly emotional men are hard to handle. Emotions are raw, even more than passion, Once you have feelings for someone, it doesn't go away that easy. Emotion takes time. once you have them, its there for life, its a scar that you carry, unlike passion. It real, and it is in when you accept the person the way they are and like them completely. And to make an emotional impact in that one person... That's my ambition! 


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