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The Dream

Realizing that I have been writing of things that didn't work out, and talking about the things that I don't want. I was wondering why don't I give a positive note to the blog and talk about what I really want. Three words - Passion, Compatibility and Acceptance. And yet again, I end up getting two of three, from my first relationship to the last fling. Passion and Compatibility , with Kel was pretty high.

 Passion for me sometimes drives my life. In an otherwise mundane existence, Passion gives me a reason to live. To be passionate, you don't necessarily need to be compatible. My last relationship had no compatibility whatsoever. But there was a lot of passion. But passion is fire, it blows off as fast as it burns. Even one night stands can be passionate, but won't last longer than a night.

Compatibility without passion is boring. I have, in my time, found many guys who would be compatible, I even logically decided to date someone that way, just because we were to an extent compatible, but without passion, it is like food without salt. I can flow with him, but life would be static.

Acceptance, both ways. I recently met a guy, with whom I am highly passionate, and to an extent we are compatible, but the acceptance part for me, to see him in the light of commitment, I got cold feet. To be mutually accepted for who we are is plays a huge role. More than the society or parents, there is always a part of us, that doesn't accept ourselves, and the same part wouldn't accept the other person for who he is. It is better to give space and move on, because there will always be someone who will like him for who he is.

Why these three in particular you ask? Passion for body, Compatibility for mind and Acceptance for Emotions. When these three match, the bond would be so strong that it can't be broken that easy. Which is the most important you ask? The Emotional connect for sure. I'll write about emotional connect in the coming days.

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