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Married Men

I had been very careful that I must not be with married men. It always felt like I am letting them cheat on their wives. But, my naivete had led me to make out with one. For someone who takes zero efforts on someone I like, the once who take an effort to get to know me, I wouldn't ignore. If there is nothing that would be between us, then I would rather make it clear.

Married men are a paradox in themselves. Talking to an older friend of mine, the fact that Gay men need to marry for the sake of their parents was an unspoken norm. It was okay for them to lead a double life. These married men, unless effeminate to a point it is obvious, they would get married and hunt for young guys (or other married men) to quench their lust for men.

Although it is their choice, the trend that is set is highly questionable. The fact it is okay to cheat on his wife, (cose men, and not a woman), and that the men/boys don't deserve any kind of recognition or respect. Why is it that we settle down to be okay with married men? when you end up being the dirty secret, I don't know. I might be a hypocrite at this point. I unknowingly had dated one and came to know about it at a later stage. But I was told that the wife knows about his affairs. Still not sure if that is legit, I am keeping my distance. 

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