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The Paradoxes of the Gay World

The Gay world, as I could see was a place where you come with the biggest dreams that are slowly shattered. It is like Bollywood. Everyone wants to live the dream, but very few succeed. The frustration and the hopelessness is something that we have to deal with. More than anything the process is filled with various paradoxes.

The young guys these days look at a gay man more than as just a piece of meat. They want to share their body with one guy (at least they hope to), While the old ones (Who would rather settle down) look for variety. Sometimes though, I feel that they are in love with the idea of being in love. The few sensible older men do look for a younger guy, but they dont accept guys way younger to them. I personally think that the trend is quite good. But the paradox doesn't end here. The younger guys look for a relationship with guys older than them, while the older guys choose younger guys for variety.

I was always of the thought that the older men would be much more mature than the younger, but which is not the case. From what I see, younger men show more understanding and compassion towards each other, compared to the older crowd (Above 28year olds), who in case are sensitive, are extremely dramatic.

I feel that its basically because of the Baggage that they carry. Some guys over 30s have been heart broken beyond a point, they don't want to get emotionally attached again. I feel that they may end up being by themselves is sad, but they prefer it over being with the wrong person. I hope they settle down someday. someday, they find what they are looking for! and that the young finally settle down with someone who is of their same wavelength be it of their same or younger. I, of mental age (which must be 60 plus. lol) and emotional age ( 16 year old ), inside a mid twenties body,  as of now, would accept someone of mental age 40, emotional age 20 inside a body of 30, but if the same person is younger, I wouldn't mind dating. what do you think?


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