Skip to main content

Being called Bro

When there is this guy, whom you have a feeling is gay/bi. You kinda text him every once in a while cose you find him hot, and then one of your friend has seen him on Tinder, you kinda keep your hopes when you text him, especially when he texts back so well and holds a conversation (although its mostly about fitness, and you being a foodie dread the topic). Everything seems to be going so well, and you imagine things in your head, and he drops the "Bro" bomb!

I don't know why all these straight men have started "Bro"ing each other, and one of my exes used to hate it, and now I know why. Its such a turn off when the guy you like simply makes you a "Brother" cose you know, you are a man!.

I am guilty of "Bro"ing a few guys if they do sniff up to me. Its like a clear yet indirect way of saying "I am not into you", in fact, even gay men use it quite often. "Dude", "Man", "Bro", as if that makes you all macho. Yeah, well, it does sound a lot better than "Dear" "Darling" "Sweetheart". But when things are going well, and you expect to cozy up, "What else, Bro?" makes you cringe on the inside.

I did use it to cover up/ tease when my ex, Kel and I were texting without coming out to each other. He simply asked me to call him "Kel", and I happily obliged. I called him "Bro" initially when I clearly had feelings for him, may be because I didn't want him to know how I felt about him. When we got cozy, I think I kinda felt it was time to get out of the "Bro" zone.

I might be a bit rude these days, when he calls me "Bro", I simply cut off talking to him, and he isn't someone who texts until texted to, and that kinda sucks, cose he doesn't take an initiative. May be he just isn't into me. Having said that, I really wish he or any hot guy doesn't call me "Bro" ever again. Bro, is an official cock-blocker!

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

End of a time

It's been so long since I wrote. But then when I see people read my blog, and say how much they relate. It compels me to write more. I thought that I don't have much to write anymore. Same old issues, same old stories. I even didn't want to write thinking that the issues I mentioned would probably dilute the matter with too many posts. But then I write today because something recently struck me hard. A conversation with a love interest who is looking for a partner, realized that I talked a lot about my previous love .Which I didn't know was so obvious. But I clearly didn't move on. After may be discussing for a whole hour, he asked if I am looking for a lover or a partner? Because you don't have much time until you spend time loving someone who may never be your partner. That's when I realized that I for all these years, haven't had a proper romance, and I am already out of that age. I am old enough to settle down and look for a partner, instead of

Walk of Shame

usually walk of shame happens when you have had sex with a total stranger, and you just regret to have done that while getting back home in the morning. But, to me it was different. Some few months back, I met this guy, he was really smart. well behaved and very talented. Mind you, I didn't meet him on any apps, but for work. Everytime he comes to work, he gives special attention to me, while other men "see", he "watches" me. While other man just touch, he "feels" me. He used to openly make it clear that he is there to see me and me only. I used to feel so special. But I never had the guts to reciprocate. Partly because the reputation he has for being a player. he is extremely smart, very soft spoken and has that charm. Girls fall for him so easy. I used act like I don't like him, but all my peers started noticing the attention I get from him. He talks only to me, the way he looks at me, how closely he stands, how he gets pissed if I have a figh

What I would tell my young gay self

Sometimes when you are gay, you are isolated, there are no mentors to guide you what is right and what is wrong. You have to tread carefully and move forward. With all the experience that I have gained so far, I would have to see what is gonna work and what doesn't. A few things that I would want to tell my younger self if I were to meet him. 1) They are as scared as you are - I remember the days when I used to ask a hundred questions before I share my photos. I was worried that I would be blackmailed, that I would be raped, and that the guys would kidnap and sell me off. Yes, all this does happen. There are many who are really evil, but as time went, I realized that most of the guys are just helpless and are scared themselves. There are many married men who live a double life, there are famous men, who don't want to come out, there are young boys who are going through the same as you. In fact, some of them are more closed than you are! 2) You would be rejected - Rej