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Dynamics with Women

The Interesting thing about being Gay/Bi, would be when you don't fit to the usual social norms of gender roles quite naturally. For when I see how straight men have to "impress" women and how they do all kinds of weird "acts" around them, and you don't understand it. The entitlement of these girls just because they have a vagina and two breasts, is something that I definitely couldn't understand. May be because I have "options" on the other side. Being Bi means that I don't have to bow down to any man to impress him, nor for a girl. and it drives them crazy.

It was rather odd to see how the girls, as they grow up grow apart from you, and also not comfortable with you, because you are essentially a "man", and you know for a fact that you don't have to see them that way. How some girls "like" you, and you just feel weird because she isn't your "type", but everyone around ships you both.

You have that comfort with women that straight men don't. Where you can see them as someone you relate to (may be by the fact that they like men too). May be because you are not too "macho" and seem chilled out and the "vibe" is clear. Women naturally trust you and find you relatable, even if you are not "open" to them. Some girls simply catch your vibe and discuss about guys with you, and you just pretend like you don't care.

The Dynamics of women/girls with open gay men is quite "sisterly", but with the closeted is quite confused, and depends completely on your level of masculinity. The way atleast I behave with girls is treat them "equal". Wouldn't impress them in any way, wouldn't act different when they are there or not, in fact, I can make sexual jokes or flirt, and if they get "offended" because a "man" has spoken to them this way, or treat me any different because I am a man, or show their entitlement towards me, I would simply ignore them.

If a girl just asks me to pay for her lunch, just because, I wouldn't, because may be I am not enticed by their beauty, and some do get offended by it. Some girls expect me to "keep a distance" cose I am a man, but again, I try to make them comfortable with me, just by "vibing" with them. Those things they want a typical "man" to do, I wouldn't (except for the occasional flirting). It is sometimes clear that these girls get confused, how I can change my stance so easy. How also the fact that I treat men the same way I treat a woman (flirting included) raises questions, but they can never be sure unless I spell it out.

Let's not forget how jealous you get, when the guys give attention to her, and you simply stand there feeling miserable. How girls can just "flirt" openly with men, how they have so many men as options. How girls who are not half as good looking as you, get hundred guys behind them, and how you walk with a girl, and a hot guy looks at her, and you are simply ignored. Some day, I wish I could make all those girls jealous!


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