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Priorities and Initiative

When you fall for someone, you can't help it but make him a priority. You also end up taking initiative to make you are engaged with him. But, those priorities and initiatives don't work if they are not mutual. Many of us end up making someone your priority only to see that you are not their priority at all. That you end up being the person who takes priority on them.

Men especially have many other priorities. Earning for us is not an option but a duty. We need to be "someone" and prove ourselves to people around us, and that consumes most of our time. We cannot live for "someone else", and even if you do, the other person must prioritize more in other things to get your life going. 

Sometimes, the fact that I am getting older makes it all the more complicated. With our own lives to live and works to do, the burden of life only increases day by day. The guys who were elder to me, have so many responsibilities, that they can look at you as an "escape", and wouldn't take the romance seriously. But that is life!

We all wish that we could live in with our loved ones. We wish we could spend more time, that we could travel more often, and live well. That your guy had more time for you, and took a bit more initiative.

When someone is in love with you, you would end up being their first priority and they become yours. They are the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing you think of when you sleep. You would do things for that one person which you wouldn't do for anyone else.

But as day goes by you only see that we keep ourselves engaged with various things and interests. Especially if you are with someone who is in a distant relationship with you, and if timelines don't match, and more over when the responses get delayed, the attention goes down, it creates a void, and we end up making something or someone else your priority. 


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