Narcissism is caused by the difference between the real self (Who you really are) and the ideal self (what others want you to be), when you cannot be yourself (most gay men cant in the society), we put up an image saying this is who I am, and that low self esteem, and self hatred, the need for approval makes a gay man narcissistic.
To come out of this is to first accept one self, or to genuinely figure out why we cant accept that part of us, self love, such that you don't need others to look at you, worship you, follow you etc, instead you would rather be happy about yourself. Where you don't support a cause if you don't want to, you raise your voice to what affects you alone. You be with a few people who respect you and whom you respect.
One thing I realized is that the passion, compatibilty and acceptance with someone else that I crave, may lacking in myself. How much passion do I have towards myself, who compatible is my vision and reality, and how much of the reality of myself do I accept?!, it humbles me, I guess. But it is not so easy as it seems.
To come out of this is to first accept one self, or to genuinely figure out why we cant accept that part of us, self love, such that you don't need others to look at you, worship you, follow you etc, instead you would rather be happy about yourself. Where you don't support a cause if you don't want to, you raise your voice to what affects you alone. You be with a few people who respect you and whom you respect.
One thing I realized is that the passion, compatibilty and acceptance with someone else that I crave, may lacking in myself. How much passion do I have towards myself, who compatible is my vision and reality, and how much of the reality of myself do I accept?!, it humbles me, I guess. But it is not so easy as it seems.
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