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The Solution

To all the paradoxes and to the problems, the only solution when I think deeply comes from the fact that most of the Gay men have low self esteem, They are ready to sleep with men, for nothing. To put it blunt, even prostitutes get paid for sex. While men are easy to have sex with. Top or Bottom. We end up giving our body without connecting emotionally or even intellectually. After which, we don't respect our own self or the others in our community.

Even by the time love finds us, we have done almost everything in bed with several men that there is nothing special to look forward with the guy you want to be with. No memories to cherish, no bond or intimacy. We become a piece of meat. We allow others to see us that way. The only way is to start having self esteem. Be it a DemiGod or a potato, I feel that a potato who would sleep with a man after only connecting emotionally have more self esteem than a DemiGod who readily fucks.

Your self esteem comes up not when a hundered guys say you are hot in grindr, but when one guy truly admires you while you are talking about something you are passionate about. your self esteem comes up not when you fuck a hot guy but when an average guy touches and worships you and kisses you with sincere passion. self esteem goes up not when you say you have hooked up with many men, but when you have one guy with whom you can enjoy sex without any inhibition.

Like the "Golden Rule" (No pic = No reply), we can have some rules in Grindr, PR etc where you as an individual start feeling proud (for real) for being gay.

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