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Being with narcissists - 1

It took me a while to realize that I was always going to narcissists for romance and even friendship. There is a big difference between self confidence and narcissism. The main issue is the lack of intimacy. The guy you like would do everything for you, make you feel "Special", more than making you feel special, they make others feel like "shit", to make you feel better. When it is just the two of you, he'll make you feel high, and then he'll insult you and make him feel great.

Narcissists have a huge following. They'll text a hundred guys to feel good about themselves. They can't take it when someone is ignoring them, and they usually target people who are happy by themselves. Narcissists are people who are not just happy with themselves, they want the world to celebrate them, everyone!.

The hook - if you are a normal guy who is happy with yourself and content with your life and someone who is a DemiGod comes to you and showers you with love and attention, When they ignore everyone else and only targets you, we think its love (may be). They'll make you feel special until you reciprocate back. It's because, they don't want intimacy, but they like the chase. The minute you like them, they'll ignore you for a new person.

I am sure this has happened to all of us at any point of time, or it is something we might have done to others and felt bad about it. 

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