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How to Escape a narcissist

Being someone who has seen narcissists, I decided to take a plunge into it just to see how I can get the right way to escape. And so I agreed to date an arch narci knowing that he is one. But this time the escape was pretty easy, as I know that if I get too close, I just have to run away. And So I did. A short lived narci affair, where I tested the waters. I did share my body or emotions to him. I maintained my distance, I annoyed the shit outta him, and to annoy him more I made a soft escape. May be, at one point I realized that I don't have to take any more time, some where I felt at peace.

First and foremost, tell "No" to Narcis, unlike the genuine ones, the narcis wouldn't come behind you. Narcis like control over everything. They wouldn't want to give the control to you. But you take control and leave, they pretend to not care, but the more you are at peace with yourself, they'll be behind you to make your life miserable. Always use the "Love" bomb. Telling "No" to everything that they say, they would come behind you to take control, tell that you "Love" them and yet say "No" to everything. they'll get puzzled, and the "L" word would give their ego a cushion to let you go. Although it seems like they have won, you know that it was just a big escape!

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