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The Golden Rules - 1

We all know about the "Golden Rule" of the gay world. No pic = no reply. there are many unspoken rules that squeeze the self esteem in us. No = No reply = Not interested. What we forget here is that we are dealing with people with their own emotions and problems and insecurities. None of us want to be rejected and we try all that we can to be not rejected, but why do we let others define our self worth. This golden rule where you see the person as a piece of meat is the main reason why Gay men are lonely and depressed. There are certain things like your body that you can work on. Ethnicity and height are something you don't have control over. More than looks we need to start looking for personality. They are two different things. The personality can hardly be understood with a person's pic. It is how they carry themselves, their behavior and attitude, and crucially their self esteem.

"No Self Esteem = No Reply"

If  a guy is ready to sleep with you without you making any effort, don't sleep with him. A guy needs to value is body and let him demand a bonding before being courted to bed, I think any human being deserves such respect. If you are interested in a guy, Ask him for a date. Top or Bottom. and any guy with Self respect wouldn't burden his partner to be perfect for the fact that he is gay. He would have enough self respect to be agree for a date who is interested in him than go behind only someone he is interested in.


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