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Being with a narcissist - 2

Once you are hooked and you start giving them love, and they'll want you to concentrate only on them. Your friends, your job, your own self is secondary. They tell you about the guys who hit on them, they tell about the their past and how they are damaged. They;ll make it look like you are the only person who can save them. But, when you fall for them, they'll get bored. They'll bring in new people and say that they are interested in the other person. They will make you fight for them, and enjoy the whole ride.

when you think you have had enough, you'll try to move away, and they'll come behind you and do everything they can to win you back. You think they have changed, they'll promise that they'll change. but it doesn't happen.

you see that even when they kiss, there is no passion. They just do everything to give pleasure to themselves. The easiest way to find out is to look at their eyes. Look deeply in their eyes and see if they really look at you with love.

Other than that, they always hang out with guys who are less attractive than them. They are surrounded by people all the time, who worship them. They have "options", they keep more than two people as an option to fall back if something happens. They connect with others superficially and lie a lot to the one they love!. Emotionally hurting the one who loves is their big past time.

Be with them until they make you high. When they try to emotionally destroy you, run!. Narcissists cannot take "no" for an answer. Say "no" to them often, they'll leave by themselves. They'll try to hurt you, they'll emotionally make you feel bad when you say no to them. Its okay. If you identify yourself as a narcissist. its okay. more posts on solution coming up.


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