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Monogamy

Monogamy is a taboo in the gay world. Why?! Unlike our usual social structure there is nothing stopping us from having multiple partners. If we can live with the guilt of liking a guy, I think we can live with the guilt of having multiple partners. Its not wrong in any way. It is a free society, if every other party is okay with it, I don't think there is nothing that should stop us from it. The problem is that the Romance is lost in this. To court a man seems like an unwanted thing. With free bodies ready for you to sleep with, what is the fun?!, I am sure we all wish to be with someone who is not easily available for all. We all want that exclusivity, Tell me, wouldn't it be the best thing?! the guy you love is all yours, he doesn't have the need to be with anyone else. He would take care of himself and look forward just for you.

Sexual urges do come, but the difference between sex and love making is something that is completely different. Even in Straight relationships. Being with a girl and a guy, I must say that being with a guy is a totally different experience. But with some guys you feel that passion. Like "Remo"(details for another day).

When you ever feel that with a guy, Don't let him go. But may be to wait till you get someone with whom you actually feel that, is a huge task. But trust me it's worth it.

To know different people in a superficial level is easy. To have a hundred options and to shuffle seems like a good place to be. But to be with one person and know the depths of that person, that isn't easy. Its scary!. To open up your true self, and to see them accept you, and when you surprise yourself by accepting the other person, its thrilling. To actually go through so much and yet decide to stay together, it's a task. You'll be bored of them, you'll have insecurities pop up. you'll feel things you have never felt before, suddenly and surely you realize that the other person is a part of you and you are part of them. There will be fights, there will be tears, there will be aches, but you'll survive all of it, you'll feel the soul intertwined. I know it sounds like a dream, but I can vouch that you'll feel it one day or the other, mostly when you think you have lost hope, love hits you!.

when you "make love" to that one person, that emotional bond, that admiration. you'll not want to be with anyone else. When someone has deeply touched you knowing the depths of your being, the feeling you get is amazing. It's crazy.. I wish more gay men feel this and set an example for romance to the straight couples. I am sure we are capable of it. 

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